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Friday, March 4, 2011

After I Do: Children

Are/were you and your SO on the same page when it comes to having children (or not)?  Have your views on having children (when, how many, etc.) changes since you were engaged or first married?  If so, what changed your mind/views/timeline?  Bee parents: How did you and your SO decide when you were ready to start trying to have children?  Did any specific life events influence your decision?

I am happy to report that H and I were most definitely on the same page when it came to having children.  We both wanted little versions of us running around our house.  Hehe.  The number of children change from time to time.  At first we wanted to have 2 kids.  Then I drifted towards the "at least 2 kids" side.  Right before our wedding H's fortune telling uncle predicted the number of children plus the gender.  That's when we liked the idea of having 3 kids (uncle's prediction).

We never actually set a timeline.  We just knew that we wanted to get married first (duh!).  In all of the years we were dating/engaged, we were also actively preventing.  After we got married, we no longer actively preventing, and that's how Ninja came into this world.  Hehe.  H always wanted to have kids as soon as possible.  He wants to be a young dad to be able to enjoy playing with his kids.  On the other hand, I wasn't sure if I wanted them as quickly as he did.  I think waiting a year after marriage would have given us enough time to soak in married life and enjoy our last hurrah.  Well sometimes life doesn't go according to plan.  H's fortune telling uncle was insistent on us conceiving in the 60 days following H's grandmother's passing away.  It would be good luck for us and our family.  I'm not sure why, but at that moment I wanted to start trying within the next month.  Sure, it wouldn't be within the 60 days, but I was ready (as if it was magic).  No worries.  I was already pregnant by the time I had this conversation with fortune telling uncle.  Haha. 

So we never actually came to a conclusion on when we wanted to have kids.  We just made one.  It was a pleasant surprise and came exactly at the right time.  Although technically you could say Ninja was an "accident."  I don't think he was.  Instead he wasn't planned, but we never prevented from having him either.  He is a very welcomed member to our family, and we couldn't be happier.

Hello, little Ninja!

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